Failure isn’t always what it seems
The path to success is anything but smooth. Failure is inevitable. There isn’t any denying it or escaping it. Nobody is immune to it. No matter how good you are in your area of expertise, there isn’t any guarantee of immunity against failure, nor is there assurance you will succeed the first time around or every time around.
Failure is a bitter pill to swallow. Quite simply, failure sucks. There’s absolutely no feeling worse than hitting rock bottom. No wonder so many dread failures. Bear in mind that no amount of hating or detesting it will help you avoid it. Do not fear failure.
Failure is part of life and the achievement process. J.K Rowling, the bestselling author with an incredible rags-to-riches story, has beautifully summed it with this line: “It is impossible to live without failing at something unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.”
Do Not Fear Failure
But failure need not dissuade, demoralize, nor end your success journey. Looking at it in the proper perspective, failure does not mean it’s over. It only means that you did not succeed this time around.
At times you’ll confront situations where the odds seem to be stacked against you. You need to train yourself to be tough, take the hits as a way to increase your resolve. Do not fear failure.
Failure can work for you when you view it the right way. Failure alone isn’t detrimental. What’s detrimental about failure is its paralyzing effect when you let it get to you. Your odds of recovering from failure and regaining lost confidence depend greatly on how you approach it.
Failure does not care about how you feel. It only presents two options: either give up or fight. It’s your responsibility to get back up and accept the challenge. You can opt to take the easy way out, step back and give up or make the tough choice of picking yourself up, getting back on your feet and starting over again. Starting again will motivate you towards achievement and transform your life.
Accept what occurred
First thing you should do once you’ve failed is to accept it and come to terms with it. Do not ignore, deny or conceal it. You’ve failed and there is nothing you can do to undo it.
Accept it and understand that it is okay. Failure happens all the time. It is no big deal if you take it and decide to do something about it. That’s the way you learn how to overcome failure.
Take complete responsibility
There is no shame in it. Things will not always work out the way you thought they would but remember you are still in charge. Never blame others and hold them accountable for your failures. Passing the buck is a recipe for disaster.
Examine what happened
You can’t undo what happened, however, by taking stock of what occurred, you’re able to assess and gain insight into what went wrong and how and where it went wrong. Additionally, it will help you understand what worked and what didn’t so you can begin again with a different strategy.
Analyzing failures can assist you in revising your plan, preparing yourself, working on your weak points, and enhancing your future performance. It will give you the confidence to bounce back and start more confidently.
Learn from your mistakes
There’s a lot of truth in the words of Henry Ford when he stated that the only real mistake is the one where we learn nothing. You have to learn from your miscues and ‘heed the lessons of failure’, as Bill Gates put it.
Make the Most of your failures. Embrace them, learn from them rather than repeat them. Identify your weaknesses, work on them and turn them into your own strengths. Do not fear failure.