Can You Say Superman?
The words ‘thank you’ and ‘I appreciate you’ may seem simple, but for those who have heard them know that they work wonders. How did you feel the last time you gave a coin to a beggar and they were thankful? Personally, I added another coin just to hear the same words again. The same goes for relationships. As Steve Harvey indicated in one of his books, there are three ways that a man shows his love. One of them happened to be in the way he provides for his family…being the breadwinner. When he provides, he feels like a man. But when you show him that you actually appreciate what he is doing for you, he feels more than a man…can you say, superman? He gets motivated to do more for his family. That simple ‘thank you’ gave him wings to fly into space and bring you the moon.
How To Wrap Him Around Your Finger
Obviously, when he is happy, he will make you happy too. That’s the joy of gratitude. For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Ladies, this is a physics law which does not work in any aspect of a relationship. When a man goes out his way to buy you a sac Celine for your birthday and all you do is nag and complain how it is not your color, you do not deserve that man by your side. You need a color wheel companion beside you. For every positive action, it definitely deserves a much more positive reaction. Men, please DO NOT complain of how bad your lady cooks. Be grateful she makes an attempt to cook. There are ladies who can not boil water. If she is that bad, then try scheduling for cooking classes that you can attend together as a couple. If anyone must complain. Please try to look for a solution so that you can move forward.
The Joy Of Gratitude
Kindness is a language that the blind and the deaf can understand. Gratitude is part of being kind and if you only knew how much appreciation is appreciated you would do it more often. Be thankful for the positive and the negatives in your life. Your messed-up previous relationship happened to help you understand the mistakes you made so that you can be cautious in your next one. There are two sides of every coin, technically there are three if you are counting the curved side. Whichever side you are facing its worth being grateful for. So smile at your pain, sorrows, joys, and achievements today. It’s only then that you will recognize the joy of gratitude.
Forming Lasting Relationships
If you are in a relationship you can attest to the fact that it is both wonderful and scary. It is wonderful because you have someone to share the little splendors of life. You have someone to call when everything goes wrong because you will get all the comfort you need. The scary part lies in the expectation of danger. This is a gut feeling that your relationship will eventually end someday. The feeling usually goes away as you continue to spend time with your partner and realize it was all in your head. Note that expectation of danger is a feeling that may recur, especially when you are faced with hard questions concerning your relationship.
What Is Your Relationship Saying?
Every relationship has a story and the biggest question you may have to answer is what story is your relationship telling to the world? Is it that of love conquering all obstacles or is it one of despair? Can a stranger look at you and your partner and believe in true love? To truthfully answer these questions, you have to look inside yourself and be as candid as possible. You do not have to wait for your relationship to be on the rocks to start searching for answers, you can start now. In fact… the best time to truthfully answer any hard questions you may have is when the tide in your relationship seems smooth. The reason is that when both you and your partner are going through pure bliss, you are more accommodating towards any difficult questions and concerns regarding your love life.
Your Relationships And Your Legacy
Before asking your partner to give his opinion on the kind of story your relationship tells, search yourself. Think about the time you met and what struck you the most about your partner. Think of the first fight you had and whether your partner was quick to sweep your issues under the carpet or was ready to argue till you both found a solution. Did both of you focus on the problem rather than pointing out one another’s weaknesses? Now that you have taken a look at the early stages of your relationship, consider the progress you have made so far. Think of the number of months or years you have been together and whether you are both in it for the long haul. Consider whether your partner speaks in terms of we instead of I and you. If your partner often uses, we, you definitely have a love story to tell for generations to come!